The Circle of Consent

Boundaries and agreements

A few years ago, I studied healthy sexuality education, and in one of the classes, the instructor told us about a study done in a kindergarten somewhere. The study involved bringing the children to a playground that was not fenced.

All the children gathered and played in the facilities in the center of the field and did not go near the edges. Another time, they brought the kids to the same lot, but it was fenced off this time. The children scattered all over the field and played with pleasure in all the facilities.

One of the first things you learn at any workshop, festival, or conference that invites intimate communication is the wheel of consent (Betty Martin).

In short, All types of contact, when given/received/taken/made possible by consent, that is, In the circle, are fun and good for both parties. What is found from shore to circle: These are the places of satisfaction, renunciation, sacrifices, exploitation, and such.

The circle of consent is the basis of any relationship with intimacy and touch (not just a marital relationship).

Why is this so important?

I think the experiment shown above explains it best. It is safer to play within limits and, therefore, more pleasant and fun. Each party knows exactly what is possible and what is not what is allowed - within the circle of consent and what is not - outside the circle—no unpleasant surprises. There are no contractions, stagnation, running away, or any other reaction to a stressful situation - because I was touched not the way I asked.

Agreements and boundaries are correct not only for situations of contact and intimacy but also for relationships. What are my limits in the relationship? What do I agree to happen, and what do I allow? Where do I give, and where do I receive?

And this is true in any relationship, not just in a relationship.

I invite you to the evening, where we will get to know the circle of consent. We will learn about it through an explanation in a short lecture, mainly through an experiential experience.

You are welcome to come with a partner you want to practice with. You can also come alone and connect with someone in the space.

* The practice is not sexual *

* No need for gender balance *